“We are most alive when we’re in love.” -John Updike
It is the time when we are in love when we feel the butterflies in our stomach every time we meet the person we love the most. It is the cloud nine kind of feel when we share our times with them. And it is most likely to be the apple of my eye vibe when we get to see each other face to face. Being in love is not that at all a mistake, it is a gift from above that made this world united in many ways. But clearing things out on what or how love today works is very important. It is not everyday we get to know the mistakes made by people on their relationships with one another. Understanding the right stages of love, will help us classify the feelings we have and to avoid getting confused on the treatment we share with the person.
My grade 8 health teacher once discussed to us what really are the stages before entering into a romantic relationship. It changed my belief on relationships because then, I realized that whatever we know today are not always right. I will discuss the 5 stages of love:
“Each day we stood almost shoulder to shoulder, occupying the same space, breathing the same air, but we remained strangers.” ― M.A. Stacie, Unwritten Rules
As read in the quotation above, the first stage is being STRANGERS. Normally in this stage, it is where your friends would “recommend” you to their other friends or you meet this person somewhere in your hangout or you’ve met him/her for the first time and had a casual talk immediately. Basically on this stage, both of you are not aware of the existence of each other in this big world we live in. It is when they also say that, “I fell in love at first sight”. Cliche as it sounds but it really does exist.
In this stage, the partners are not in good communication process; Both will willingly end the conversation since there is no topic to be talked about. It is where all the awkwardness level goes in the air and there is a complete silence around. But still, this is where it all starts. You and that person being strangers who will eventually turn into “someone you know”.
Learn more at All About Love by Romaine Gulay.